Health is a huge topic. My work as a Case Manager, Movement Educator, Therapist and Coach has health at core.
Sometimes I read twits and tweets from twitting tweeting healthcare professionals struggling to ‘make their patient’s change’
“Oh” they write “If only they (meaning their patients) would just do the exercises I have shown them, they would get better”
As a social scientist and positive psychologist interested in maximizing health I find that view fascinating
After all having a little bit better health is something that most people can achieve.
However to do that does require a little bit of an effort, and to do something which requires effort needs a powerful driver
But not that much, because the simplest change that can be made is in accepting our failures with some laughter
So when I read about health care professionals pounding the drum, beating out the rhythm of health education.
Marching to the out of tune “You will change !, You WILL change YOU WILL CHANGE !
I feel like sitting them down and asking them “Have you ever wondered why you cant get the message across ?
Communicating effectively, effectively starts with being able to communicate with our self
To do that we need to be as kind as kind can be.
Its not really very helpful to judge our behavior as being good or bad. In fact it can be quite destructive and downright upsetting.
Plus it’s almost a certainty that other people are going to say something negative.
So why say negative things about yourself ?
Most behavior has at root some degree of self preservation, safety, protection. That’s often a habit
Habits are really, again, some protection. After all its quicker to roll over and sit on the edge of the bed if you have a habit
If you had to work out how to do something like rolling over, from scratch every day it would take ages to get up
So habits are cool !!
Except that if you have a habit and dont know you have a habit, then you cant change.
In my blogpost about Goodness Gracious, my 5 stage process and deleting I gave an example of a habit.
It’s OK to have a habit
In this short video I go into how a case I was looking after had a habit and was convinced he hadn’t been told to stop using crutches
What I didn’t post in the video was that he was certain that both he and his wife had not heard the consultant say anything
I have the email and he was convinced.
So too was the consultant and when the letters arrived that he had sent to the GP it was clear the message just hadn’t got across.
So who was at ‘fault’ ?
To me it was clearly the healthcare professional because he didn’t get the message over to his patient
There is a good outcome to this story because this person is now walking without any walking aids and back to work